Why you shouldn’t push children to be ‘the best’ according to this mother

‘Why didn’t she want to be an actress? Or dancer?” she writes in her blog.

Invisible

For her, the life of a star in her childhood was a dream: “I was never the ‘cool’ girl in school and my parents were so busy that I was not number one.” Brandi always felt invisible, until she realized that when she achieved things, whether it was at a writing, drawing, or dancing competition, she would stand out. “I longed for the attention. I wanted to be the best.’

big dreams

When Brandi became a mother, she also had big dreams for her daughter: she would make sure that she had every opportunity. Did she want to be an actress? Then she got private lessons. Was she interested in science? Then she sent her to the best science camp in the country – anything to help her daughter become “the best.”

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‘She must have fun’

“But my daughter didn’t want to hear about that,” Brandi continues. “She has been okay with being in the background from an early age and is much more confident than I used to be. When my daughter is with friends, she is happy. She doesn’t need all those prizes: she would much rather be part of a team.’ That’s why Brandi has decided not to push her daughter anymore. ‘She must have fun in what she does. Not every kid who plays tennis automatically becomes Serena Williams. And that’s fine.’

Source: Scary Mommy

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