“Mommy, what is eating pussy?” he asked in the middle of the birthday’

Can be useful, tell your child early how it really works with the flowers and the bees. Yet sometimes you have those moments when you doubt whether this was the right time.

Sarah (38), mother of Luuk (8):

“With Luuk I am quite easy and open when it comes to sexuality. Nothing is crazy or dirty or weird. Ever since he became aware of his body as a toddler, I’ve been talking to him about his naked body. That he is allowed to touch his penis, for example, but not in front of others and that it is normal that he likes that feeling.

I want to know now

I’ve also always said that he can ask me anything about sex, under the guise: he’d rather hear it from me than from an eighth grader in the schoolyard. That was not always convenient.

In the middle of my great-aunt’s birthday, Luuk came to me with his question and not exactly in a whisper. He had heard something about eating pussy that morning — what was it and how exactly did you do it? Judging by the shocked faces around me, not everyone present was deaf.”

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Marleen (29), mother of Seb (6):

“Our cat had had babies: the perfect occasion to explain to Seb what it was like with babies in general. Seb heard my story and then ran to our neighbor to tell it again. He had heard such a nice thing from mom!”

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When do you actually start with that, that sex education? According to educationalist Anna Jansen, children around the age of 8 should know ‘everything’.

“They have then developed a blueprint about what sexuality is for them,” she says. “Children often ask questions and notice from your reaction as an educator to what extent they are taken seriously, receive honest answers and whether or not the subject is emotionally charged. So if you just answer honestly to your child, there is a good chance that he will come back later to ask more or different things. The most important thing you pass on to your child is that sexuality is negotiable.”

Many parents seem to find it quite a complicated subject, that sex education. Here are some tips from an expert to help you out. And immediately grab the tips for talking about sexually transgressive behavior.

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