‘I yelled at the bully to leave my child alone’
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Now, most will not immediately go to a story with a thug, but even the most gentle mothers turn into lionesses when it comes to the happiness of their child.
Manon (40), mother of Quinn (9), Luc (7) and Pip (5):
“Of course I know that children shout all sorts of things among themselves and that there is arguing back and forth. So I let go for a long time that Luc is always fighting with the same girl at the out-of-school care. But when I picked up a crying child more and more often and heard that it went beyond teasing, I started to worry.
“When spoken to, she plays the murdered innocence”
That girl is ten and both physically and verbally she is the boss of Luc. She has her arrows aimed at him, no idea why. But it has led to her turning the group against him, shutting him out and doing mean things, always out of sight of the leadership. When addressed, she plays the murdered innocence. No matter how many times I raised it with management, nothing changed.
Inappropriate, but effective
And then I saw the child walking, walking our puppy. She came to me because she wanted to pet the dog and suddenly I heard myself say: ‘Do you dare, to such a seven-year-old boy?’ She wasn’t shocked, I saw more a kind of contempt. “I’m not doing anything at all,” she claimed, and let’s just say that was kind of a red flag to me. Raunchy, I yelled at her to leave my child alone or she would have to deal with me.
Afterwards I thought: do you dare, against a child of ten? That evening I expected furious parents at the door, but nothing happened. And Luc has had an easier time at the out-of-school care since then.”
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Bullies
Renate (37), mother of Romy (8) and Jill (5):
“I barely said anything at primary school, let alone standing up for myself. I also see that with Romy. The result: you are always the victim of the bullies. No matter how much I try to make Romy more resilient, she can’t compete with Joëlla, the strongest and boldest girl in her class.
Recently she came home with bruises on her arms and blood on her hand and after all those little and bigger bullying I was suddenly so done with it. If you have to comfort a child every night who is afraid to go to school the next day, it does something to you.
“After all those little and bigger bullying, I was suddenly so done with it”
A kind of primal urge came up in me and I flew out the door, walked two blocks and rang the doorbell at the bully’s house. “This was the last time!” I cried angrily to the child, and to her stunned mother. The mother didn’t appreciate my visit, but I didn’t care. Here I was, the girl who never stood up for herself. I do not regret it and hope that my action has made sense.”
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