This is how these mothers divide the holidays after the divorce | kek mama

Three mothers tell.

Alternately

Jacobien (47), mother of Fleur (10) and Bram (8): “This year my ex and I are splitting the holidays for the first time. We were also divorced last year, but neither of us had new partners, and we were still friendly. So we spent the days as if we were still together. That was quite confusing for the children, we noticed afterwards. So we’re doing things differently this year, although the situation will sort itself out. My ex has a new girlfriend, with kids the same age as ours. We have agreed that he will have the children completely for Christmas, but then I will take them on New Year’s Eve. Easter will be his again next year, and the birthdays will be mine. Next year we will turn the whole story around. In this way it is fair for everyone, and it is synchronized with the visitation arrangements of his girlfriend. If I also have a new partner next year for whom it doesn’t work out like this, we’ll see that again.”

Honestly we will share everything

Mariëtte (39), mother of Pim (9) and Lotte (6): “We wanted to get a divorce just as much as we wanted to be with the kids. So four years ago my ex and I agreed that we would cut the holidays and holidays exactly in half. For example, the children with Sinterklaas are one year with one, and the next year with the other. On Christmas Day Pim and Lotte are always with me, on Boxing Day with my ex. Very clear for the families. We do New Year’s Eve alternately, we celebrate the children’s birthdays together in his house or mine alternately. Easter is all for my ex. Neither my family nor I have anything to do with those days, and so I have the children extra during the May holidays: we can go on holiday. Incidentally, the holidays never affect our visitation arrangements: we keep counting one week with him and the next with me. If suddenly a Christmas day falls on the other side, the children simply go to their other house for one night.”

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Did he only take her once

Roselle (35), mother of Quinty (7): “My ex-husband no longer has close relatives and prefers to spend the holidays with his girlfriend. She doesn’t get along with my daughter, so the agreement was immediately clear when he left me for her: the holidays are mine. Quite busy – I also like to have a romantic dinner with a date during the holidays. Sometimes I think: he only took her once, but actually I’m very happy with the situation; I never have to negotiate. This Christmas and New Year’s Eve we are going on a skiing holiday with my whole family. Does my ex not notice; she wouldn’t see Quinty again until the new year. Everyone happy.”

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