‘Should we have more social contacts as a family?’

Sometimes you can’t figure it out on your own and you could use some advice. So every week a reader talks about her dilemma.

Leonie (35) is married to Wim (40) and mother of Liselotte (5) and Daniël (3).

“My marriage is happy, the contact with families on both sides warm. We never experienced the fact that Wim and I have no friends as a loss. We had more than enough for each other, and our parental homes. But since we are in the schoolyard, I increasingly wonder whether I am doing my children short with our meager social contacts.

Social butterfly

In the circle on Monday morning, Liselotte’s friends talk endlessly about their parents’ parties they were allowed to attend, everyone seems to have a children’s birthday every weekend. At most, we walk in the woods with the four of us, or bake a cake with the children’s favorite music in the background. I’m not socially disturbed, I really chat with other mothers. I just don’t need them all over the floor.

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Development

My children go to after-school care and daycare, they have enough contact with peers. I always like playdates. Yet I notice in Liselotte that she too prefers to be alone than always between children. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course, but I think it’s important that she develops socially enough.

Should I set another example for our kids and show them that mom and dad also hang out with friends? They see their uncles and aunts regularly, which is the same in my eyes. Or am I being too naive here?”

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