“She looked at me with a dirty and shocked face”
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Handy, those books and videos that help you explain the basics about sex to your child in great detail. At least, you would think so.
Linda (40), mother of Féline (7):
“The teacher had a baby and I took the opportunity to cover the basics about sex. So I ordered the book I like youwhich contains tips on how to talk to children about sexuality.
“I never want to talk about it again and you can’t tell anyone I know this now”
One afternoon with tea and biscuits I calmly explained to Féline the whole story of reproduction. After my account she looked at me with a dirty and shocked face. “I never want to talk about it again and wish you had never told me this,” she said angrily. Followed by: ‘And you can’t tell anyone I know this now.’”
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With a little help from Frank
Nikki (31), mother of Ties (9) and Alwin (7):
“Long live Freek Vonk. I never had to say anything, here at home the men are big Freek fans and they eat his YouTube videos. After seeing all those mating animals, they thought that ‘people will do something like that to have babies’. I just had to confirm that.
“Of course they find it terribly dirty”
Of course they think that’s terribly dirty and they make boiling movements as soon as they see two mating toads or copulating tigers. For now, we will keep it that way.”
Sex education
Turns out to be quite a spicy subject: that sex education. No wonder a little parenting blunder comes out every now and then. We asked pedagogue Anna Jansen (who gives sex education workshops to parents) for a number of tips.
“Children ask questions to discover the world and are curious. They want to know what’s going on, just like so many other subjects. But with themes related to sexuality, it often happens that adults find this uncomfortable and tell children that this cannot be discussed.
Be honest and expand your child’s word knowledge. For example, name all parts of the body. Be positive about this. Also name behavior that you see: ‘I see that you are touching your penis, do you like that?’ If you find it difficult to find the right words to talk about this with your child, there are very nice books written by Channah Zwiep and Sanderijn van der Doef, among others.”
More tips for giving your child sex education? You can find them here.
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