Being consistent for dummies: the educationalist gives these tips

“Start with a few basic dates,” she says.

Laundry list

Do not arrive with a long laundry list stating what is and is not allowed: your child has little clarity as a result and as a parent you will never be able to work on all these agreements at the same time. Maduro: “Ask yourself: what is really important to me? First work (at a young age) on one or two appointments and if these are completely ingrained in your child, you work on a few new ones.”

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Stable

And what if you, as a parent, don’t even manage to stick to those two? “Then turn your gaze inwards,” explains the educationalist. “Look at the circumstances. How are you feeling? Are you mentally fit enough? If you yourself (or your relationship) is not stable, being consistent will also be a lot more difficult. Give yourself the time to work on this.”

‘Not done’

Also important according to Maduro: don’t be afraid of a fight. “Conflict-avoiding behavior is real not done: growing up without a fight is extremely difficult for your child. If they have never had to deal with strife, quarrel or conflict, they never learn to look at things from a different point of view. “And then, according to Maduro, they later bump into themselves:” Because conflicts exist in society. “

Minchenu Maduro, educator and mother of one son.

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