To a swingers club together: ‘My husband thought I should work on this flirt’

Joline (34), married to Joris (41), son Junior (12), daughter Barbelijn (7):

“My twin sister and I are super close and often two hands on one stomach. Yet there’s one thing she doesn’t know about me: what I’ve been up to when it comes to sex. However strong and close our bond, if she knew that Joris and I visit a swingers club once a quarter where I have sex with other men, she would be deeply shocked.

Once, during a sauna visit, I raved about pointing out a dark, very muscular man and saying that I would like to have sex with this guy right now, in the steam room. She looked at me with a dirty face. What exactly did I mean? I was crazy about Joris, wasn’t I? I should never do that to him, should I? In the end I just said it was a joke, to see how she would react. She seemed very relieved. Apparently my sister is a lot more conservative when it comes to ideas about the do’s and don’ts in a relationship.

Experiment

Of course I didn’t wake up from one day to the next with: and now I would like a different penis. That has also been a process of years. Joris and I have been together for thirteen years. He deflowered me and I was only his second relationship. In the beginning we hardly knew any positions other than missionary or me on top. I think I was 25 when we first tried doggystyle. But we became more and more relaxed and, above all, more curious. We studied the Kamasutra, watched female-friendly porn and played role-playing games together.

Slowly we started experimenting more. Attributes came. Vibrators, nipple clamps, whips. We bought a remote controlled vibrating egg that I put in before we went out to dinner. Joris had the greatest fun teasing me, in such a way that it was just possible, without me screaming. Or we sent each other horny photos and gave each other assignments by whatsapp: don’t wear underwear under your dress to the neighborhood barbecue. Or jerk off in the office toilet. We then had fun in bed at night.

“Having lawful sex with someone else while my husband watches has long been a fantasy.”

Two years ago this resulted in the fulfillment of our greatest fantasy: a visit to a swingers club. Having lawful sex with another while my husband watches has long been a fantasy. We often talked about it when we made love. Joris was not open to pure partner exchange. He had no need for another woman (or man), but he allowed me to and it seemed very exciting to him to see it. We talked about it for at least six months, constantly discussing all the pros (exciting/challenging) and cons (jealousy/will we become a filthy Jambers couple or will we just meet them there?). In the end, lust and curiosity overcame our objections.

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Swingers Club

We searched the internet for a neat, luxurious swingers club, at least a hundred kilometers from our hometown. So that we wouldn’t run into the teacher at school, for example. On a Saturday night, we took the kids to grandma and grandpa’s and booked a hotel near the club we’d chosen. That way we weren’t far from our excuse ‘Mommy and Dad are going on a romantic weekend away’.

The intention was to just snoop around that very first evening, but after we were neatly shown around by the owner and seated at the bar, we almost immediately encountered a man whose wife was bi and who was busy with another woman at the time. in one of the tendon rooms. He himself was only open to one-on-one sex and started flirting terribly with me.

“We kissed at the bar and then the three of us left upstairs.”

I’ve had a crush on dark men since my childhood and this was a beautiful Antillean man with an enormous athletic body. Joris held my hand, but encouraged me to work on this man. It actually happened very naturally. The man and I kissed at the bar and then the three of us left upstairs. I really wanted to have Joris there and the other way around, Joris also found it more pleasant. That way he could see exactly what we were doing and didn’t feel left out. The man had no objection. Joris settled down a little further in a corner of the room to watch. It was truly magical. A different body anyway, but also the knowledge that my husband loved me so much that I could do this without any problems.

Get the taste

Since that evening, Joris and I have had a taste for it. If there are no corona restrictions, we visit a club once every three months. One evening nothing happens and we just enjoy everything together. We walk around, swim or go to the sauna and we eat from the buffet. Actually just like a normal day of wellness, only with the difference that we also fuck with each other there. The other time I have a great click with someone and actually have sex. George is still okay with that. Also because it isn’t any threat to our relationship. Between such a lover and me there is not an ounce of love. Afterwards there is no further talking or cuddling, it is literally coming and ready. Usually I shower and then have sex with my own husband or we wait until we are in our hotel room.

“During our own lovemaking, we like to reminisce about past escapades.”

In any case, those visits provide a huge boost to our sex life. On such an evening we let go of all routine and obligations and we can live on that for weeks. During our own lovemaking, we like to reminisce about past escapades or future erotic parties. But anyway it’s nice to share such a secret together. Our sexual outings cannot be read from us. Anyone who gets to know us suspects a standard cargo bike family rather than a bunch of perverts. Even our closest relatives and friends have no idea of ​​our unusual hobby. Fine, we’d like to leave it that way.”

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This article appears in Kek Mama 16-2021.

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