Ma’am, You’re Barren: ‘Keep Stories Of Surprise Babies To Yourself’

1. Linda: “Please don’t tell us how lucky we are that we can sleep through the night, always sleep in and go out whenever we want. I dream of being awakened at night by my child, or of getting up early for him; nothing about infertility is a matter of luck.”

2. Stacey: “If I relax, will pregnancy happen naturally? Go away. After three years of intensive examinations and a terrible diagnosis, one thing is certain: relaxation will not cause me to get more eggs, and my premature menopause will reverse spontaneously.”

3. Betty: “If staying positive had kids, I would have skipped the bulk amounts of fertility hormones, four IUI attempts, two surgeries, tears, a miscarriage, and over four years of trying to conceive.”

4. Hannah: “Being open about your problems with loved ones is hard: half of them come up with unsolicited advice, the other just avoids the topic because it’s too awkward to talk about.”

5. ‘Library’: “Support from friends is priceless. Just that people say, “I’m thinking of you, and I’m there for you when you need me.” Or, “I don’t know what to say, but know that I’m here for you.”

6. Laura: “The fact that I choose to live a childless life does not mean that I have just thrown in the towel. It’s a legitimate choice, one I made for emotional, personal and financial reasons. It’s fine to choose for yourself.”

7. Megan: “Just because it took you three months to conceive doesn’t mean you understand what it means when it takes years to conceive.”

8. Katie: “I wanted people to understand how expensive it is, all those trying to get pregnant. I spent thousands of dollars on pregnancy and ovulation tests, apps, books and finally the endocrinologist for hormonal issues before I had my son.”

9. ‘Princess Pea’: “No, we can’t ‘just adopt’. That is unbelievably expensive, and even if you can afford it, a child is still no guarantee. It means years of waiting and hoping, and when that comes to nothing, the pain is even greater than it already was.”

10. Anonymous: “Ageing brings you a little closer to death every day. And each day that goes by infertile makes getting pregnant a little more difficult. Doctors say I would have a “geriatric pregnancy” now. Another reminder that my dream is drifting further and further away from me.’

11. Anonymous: “Infertility is not a problem for older people. My husband and I were twenty-two and twenty-six when we learned that my husband was barren. Thanks to IVF I’m pregnant now, but it wasn’t until I was thirty that was a possibility.”

12. Anonymous: “Just because I’m young doesn’t mean infertility hurts less. I am sixteen, and I already know that it is unlikely that I will ever bear children. ‘You’re still so young, you don’t have to worry about that now, do you?’ people say. But the knowledge that I will never have a child is already intolerable.”

13. ‘November Rayne’: “I’m going crazy with the assumption that I’ll just have to adopt because I’m in a relationship with a woman. I also have the desire to get pregnant.”

14. Anonymous: “People don’t understand that infertility is a personal topic that I don’t always want to talk about. I didn’t share my problems with getting pregnant with my family until I finally got pregnant.”

15. Anonymous: “Stop asking when I want a baby. And whether my husband and I want it at all. All through our fertility journey, all I wanted to do was scream, ‘Yeah, okay?! But my body is not cooperating. Get out of my womb and mind your own business.”

16. Shelby: “Infertility doesn’t just concern those who want to get pregnant. I was twenty-two when I knew I couldn’t get pregnant without medical help. Then find a man who is not afraid to take on that challenge with you.”

17. Wet: “Nobody asks what we’re going through, about treatments and surgeries. People find it an uncomfortable subject. But they do gossip about it behind our backs.”

18. Anonymous: “Fertility is fear of missing out times a hundred. It means being constantly happy for others, and at the same time feeling very unhappy because you can’t join your own baby joy.”

19. Katherine: “Bringing a healthy child into the world says nothing about how difficult it was to get pregnant.”

20. May: “Don’t say, ‘If it’s destined, it will happen by itself’. Every day since I was six I fantasized about what it was like to have a child. But apparently it wasn’t predestined: I’ve been trying for eight years.”

21. Ashley: “The endless ultrasounds, blood tests and procedures take their toll – not only physically, but also psychologically. Each new cycle is a rollercoaster of emotions, with the little glimmer of hope being crushed again and again by the disappointment that it failed again.”

22. Jessica: “Please, keep your surprise baby stories to yourself. They make me feel even more like a failure.”

23. Betty: “Mourning infertility is similar to grieving the death of a loved one. You always carry it with you. Sometimes you forget that it is there, only to be confronted with everything that will never be.”

Source: BuzzFeed

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