Carola fell in love with her son’s teacher: ‘We have now been together for a year’

Carola (41) is deliberately single mother of Milo (4) and has been together with the teacher of his daycare for a year.

“When the marriage with my wife broke down, but my desire to have children at 35 was unstoppable, I decided to go for motherhood on my own. Two years later I got Milo through the Danish sperm bank. My life felt more complete than ever. I have a close-knit group of friends and my parents live in the same town; I never felt like I was alone. Except in the nights. It didn’t matter that I always had to get out myself for a feed, teat or spit up. But I found the fact that there was no one to warmly curl up with became harder with the months of solo motherhood. No matter how much love Milo gave me, it could never be compared to the love of a partner.

Storage in love

I messed around a bit on Tinder. Signed me up on a dating site and had a quick chat with a colleague. It all came to nothing. I had almost given up hope for love when Milo moved up a group at daycare and Miss Karen picked him up from me the first morning. It was love at first sight – on my part, at least.

Rarely had I seen someone with such an open appearance, and a positivity that was contagious. Milo immediately fell in love with her – and so did I. After the first two times I left Milo with her, I couldn’t get her out of my head. Act normal, I called myself to order, such a nice woman has, of course, been in a relationship for a long time. And your child’s teacher; that probably shouldn’t even be allowed. Soon I was endangering her job with my flirtation. Only to walk into her group the next morning, blushing and with knees trembling.

“My employer does not tolerate love in the workplace,” she sputtered.

I didn’t leave Karen untouched either, I soon felt. “It’s great that you’re doing it all by yourself with Milo,” she said one day. An example, she hinted; she wanted to, too, if she never bumped into the right woman. “I’d like to tell you more about the ins and outs,” I blurted out before thinking about it, “when you have time?” Less than a week later I pulled up her chair in a cozy cafeteria between our houses. “My employer doesn’t tolerate love in the workplace,” Karen sputtered. But what did I care, there were more nurseries in the area.

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New situation

We have now been together for a year and Milo goes to primary school. Milo has no idea that I was dating a woman in his life. He feels that Karen has always been there and it is perfectly normal that she was also his ‘missy’. No rooster has ever crowed at it. Forbidden territory, a love in your children’s life? For us it is an addition. Since Karen and Milo already knew each other, I didn’t have to introduce her gently. The one who probably had to get used to the new situation the most was me.

There is only one thing: if we have a second child, we will have to look for another nursery. Because we got away well with the love between the customer and the crèche teacher, but having your own child in the group as an employee is really forbidden.”

This article can be found in Kek Mama 02-2022.

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