‘People don’t have to feel sorry for me because I’m a single mom’

When people find out that Zia is taking care of her children on her own, she usually gets a look of pity. “It’s like they think my kids and I can’t possibly be happy without a father in our family,” says Zia.

‘And that’s because you see images of a traditional family everywhere in the media and in society. Which is strange, because there are so many different families these days: biological, adopted, same-sex parents, trans parents or single parents. ‘

Twice as many hugs

That others seem to feel sorry for her, Zia takes as an insult. “Just because we’re not a two-parent family with a dog and a neat fence doesn’t mean we’re not a perfect family.”

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As a single mother, Zia knows better than anyone that it is tough to keep all the balls in the air. ‘It is twice as hard work, but it also means that I get twice as much love and hugs. It’s spicy, but it’s more than worth it. I see it as a privilege and an honor to be a mother and I really do everything for my children. ‘

Every milestone

She thinks that others certainly do not have to feel sorry for her children themselves. ‘They only know life with their mother. I’ve been there at every milestone, my face is the first thing they see when they wake up and the last before they fall asleep. So please don’t feel sorry for us. We are happy and manage just fine. ‘