Why it’s important to leave a message for your child now

The Mom’s Message initiative was born from this idea. Marjolein wants to help other mothers to capture their life lessons and memories for their children. “I am sure that every mother has a beautiful message for her child. Maybe you don’t know exactly what that is right now. But I can help you figure that out.”

Advice from own mother

“The idea for this initiative arose after the death of my mother. I was 22 years old and on her deathbed I asked if she would leave a message for me. Something personal, special to me. I needed that at the time. But unfortunately she couldn’t do that anymore.” The idea stuck and resurfaced now that Marjolein herself is the mother of three children: Maud (5), Julian (7) and Bastiaan (10). She found herself running into certain things that she could no longer discuss with her mother. “There were times when I wanted advice from my mother. For example, every now and then I’m so tired and then I get out of my shell with the children. Then I sometimes wonder: how did my mother do all this? In my mind, she’s like a superwoman who could do all that and always acted strong.”

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Valuable message

To help other mothers to give their children their advice on time, Marjolein Mom’s Message has been started. From 22 February you will follow an online trajectory with Marjolein for eight weeks. Every week there is a different theme and you get questions to think about. It starts with your own history: what was your childhood like? How were you brought up? How was your relationship with your parents? Another week it’s about motherhood. That is more related to your child now. There is also a theme that is about your message for your child. “You will think about this on the basis of in-depth questions and examples. I think that the message is already in every mother, and that through all those handles, questions and inspiration that I give them, they will arrive at that message. And it’s not that as a mother you only have one clear message. It is of course much broader. But I do believe that life lessons emerge that are important for your child in this way.”

Marjolein Wevers (text continues below the photo)

Document full of information

“If you follow this process for eight weeks, you will have established a time document at the end. It describes how your children used to be and how they are now. You also consider how you experience upbringing and motherhood. Because of all those themes and questions, you may think more about what you find important in your life. At the same time, you contribute to their personal development for your child. And maybe not for this moment, but for later. I think it is very valuable information for your child. That as an adult you can read about yourself how you were as a toddler. You can also give the document of your Mom’s Message to your child earlier, for example if they have reached a milestone. Think of the day your child leaves home or your daughter becomes a mother. It can be very valuable at several moments in life.”

And what is Marjolein’s message to her own children? “Stay close to yourself. Always try to listen to your own feelings. Others never know better for you. You are the one who knows best what is good for you.”

Photo Marjolein: Prisca Visser

Do you want to sign up for Mom’s Message? You can do that this week via this link.

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