Meghan Markle writes candidly about her miscarriage earlier this year: ‘Unbearable grief’

With the play, the duchess hopes to break the taboo on losing a child.

Sharp cramps

Meghan describes the sad moment she had her miscarriage. “It was a July morning that started as normal as any other day: preparing breakfast, feeding the dogs. After I changed Archie’s diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I fell to the floor with him in my arms and hummed a lullaby to keep us both calm. The happy tune was in stark contrast to my sense that something was off. I knew, while holding my firstborn, that I was losing my second. ”

Once in the hospital, she and Harry are told that she indeed had a miscarriage. “I was trapped in a hospital bed with my husband’s hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet with tears. I tried to imagine how we would get out of here. ”

Important question

In her column, Meghan describes thinking back to a moment in South Africa, when a journalist asked her if she was ‘okay’. That question, which she hardly ever gets, helped her. “In the hospital bed, as I watched my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shards of mine, I realized the only way to recover is to ask first, are you okay?”

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Honest answer

Due to the current corona situation and the many lockdowns, but also due to the divisions in society, many people feel more alone than ever, according to Meghan. She hopes that people will therefore ask each other more often how things are going. And that everyone also dares to answer honestly. Even when it concerns a miscarriage, which many parents have to deal with, but which often still has a taboo. “Losing a child means an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but discussed by few. Some people were brave enough to share their story, ‘Meghan writes. “They opened the door, knowing that if one person is telling the truth, it is a reason for all of us to do the same.”