‘It hurts that my child doesn’t show his appreciation’

For years, Katherine taught English in a high school. ‘At that time I often cared what the students thought of me. And I still have a hand of that, ‘she says. “I often worry about how my children feel about me as a mother.”

Princesses everywhere

For example, her daughter had her last birthday: she turned four. ‘Because of corona we couldn’t throw an elaborate party, but I did my best to make it fun for her. I baked a princess cake, made princess crafts and bought her an enormous glitter princess dress. ‘

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Her daughter seemed to be enjoying the party. “But I didn’t really appreciate my efforts,” says Katherine. ‘Of course I know she’s only four. And she has yet to learn to thank people. But when she more or less avoided me the whole party – if I wanted to take a picture of her, she ran away, for example – my heart broke. ‘

Trust in yourself

The girl also paid no attention to her father. “So I know it wasn’t me,” says Katherine. ‘Yet. I hated letting my sense of accomplishment, or even my self-worth, depend on her token of appreciation. ”

She knows she needs to learn to trust herself more. “Showing my kids that they are loved should reassure me. I don’t need to hear a ‘thank you’. I have to give myself the freedom to be less concerned with what others think of me – even when it comes to my children. But yes, that is sometimes easier said than done. ‘

Source: Scary Mommy

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