‘I just really don’t feel like having sex’

Sexologist Mandy Ronda: ‘Your sex drive is constantly changing. Hormones also play a role in this, as does your cycle. You have to make room for eroticism and tension, especially in a longer relationship. When you’ve just met, the tension is a big part of the appeal. The longer you know each other, the more this makes way for connection and trust. And if you also become a mother, you have to find your role all over again.

Make self-care a priority

It’s really not surprising that your sex drive changes, because nothing always stays the same. You don’t have to force yourself to make sex a priority. Of yourself and of intimacy in your relationship. After all, that is usually the glue of a love relationship. So make self-care a priority again. First you, then the kids / partner / household. Just like on the plane; first you put on your oxygen mask.

Let go of everyday worries and allow yourself to relax. Book a wellness day or a massage. Bingewatch your favorite series with a large mug of tea. Relaxation creates space for enjoyment, eroticism and passion. Let go of the one-sided focus on your role as a mother and experience yourself again as a woman and an erotic being, with her own desires and preferences. ‘

See Mandyronda.com for more info and tips.

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