‘For years I thought I could not get pregnant and now it was hit in one go’

“Last March I remigrated from England to the Netherlands. It was time for a fresh start. In recent years, I had gone to great lengths to conceive, both with my previous boyfriend and my husband. I was on the list for an IVF treatment when my husband suddenly said he didn’t want any more children. And actually he didn’t want to continue with me. That was a great sadness, I saw my chance of having a child disappear in one fell swoop. I was 39 and was out of marriage. I did not want to get pregnant from a donor. It meant that I had to say goodbye twice. I decided to move back to the Netherlands. Nothing kept me in England any longer. I quit my well-paid job and got ready for a new, different life.

Click

During my last days in England I had a lot of contact with Jan, a Dutch customer of mine. I had known him for years, but had never seen him in person. We always had very nice conversations on the phone or by email. Sometimes he flirted with me, but I had one rule: I kept business and private life separate. Besides, I was still married then, and he was sixteen years older. Now that he knew that I was leaving my employer and also returning to the Netherlands, he thought we could have lunch together. After hesitating for a long time, I gave him my phone number on my last working day. From that moment on, we texted all day long.

A week after returning, we would meet in a restaurant. But then came the lockdown. The catering industry closed, except for the hotels. We had become so curious about each other that we wanted to continue our date. Jan booked a room at the Hilton. It felt strange meeting an ex-customer and then also in a hotel. I was waiting for him like a shy girl. Fortunately that was immediately over when we saw each other. Jan turned out to be a nice, spontaneous man. We moved into the deluxe room, ordered burgers from room service and chatted nonstop.

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Pregnant

After that we were inseparable. Despite the strange time, with the corona lockdown, and our age difference, we felt a very strong click. In the weeks that followed, we booked hotel stays more often to meet each other. However, we never slept there. It was just eating and talking together. It wasn’t until the fifth meeting that we had sex. I probably got pregnant that night.

I did not use a contraceptive, with my medical history I felt safe. But when not much later I felt strange, with swollen breasts, Jan teased me. I must have been pregnant with his super seed. I did a test for fun. I could not believe it. It wasn’t until the ultrasound that it really dawned on me.

It was immediately clear to Jan: even though we had just met, this child was allowed to come and he wanted to do everything he could to make our relationship a success. After that, things went quickly between us: I moved in with him and started working for him. A leap of faith, but one that works out well.

In one go

It is so special to be pregnant. For years I was told that it was almost impossible for me to conceive and now it was a hit. Apparently the miracles are not over yet. According to Jan, being in love does strange things to a body. Regardless, I am overjoyed with our love baby and look forward to our family. ”

This article can be found in Kek Mama 02-2021.

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